The Daily Blade: Joby Martin & Kyle Thompson

#203 - Joby Martin // Owning the Fall: Responsibility, Blame, and the Call to Lead

Season 1 Episode 203

We look at Genesis 3 and the first blame shift, then challenge men to trade being right for taking responsibility. Adam hides; Jesus stands in our place and shows a better way to lead, love, and own our part at home and in life.

• Genesis 3:9–12 read and unpacked 
• God’s question as an invitation to own sin 
• Adam’s blame versus confessing and repenting 
• Federal headship and responsibility in the home 
• Fear and shame entering the human story 
• Rights versus responsibility in modern culture 
• Be right or be married as a practical tension 
• Jesus taking responsibility for what wasn’t His fault 
• Loving wives like Christ loves the church 
• A call to lead by confession, not accusation

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SPEAKER_00:

Welcome to the Daily Blade. The Word of God is described as the sword of the Spirit, the primary spiritual weapon in the Christian's armor against the forces of evil. Your hosts are Joby Martin and Kyle Thompson, and they stand ready to equip men for the fight. Let's sharpen up.

SPEAKER_01:

All right, welcome back to day five, a deep dive into Genesis chapter three, where we're really looking at what went wrong with Adam, and what we're going to see here is another lesson from Adam on what not to do. So we'll pick it up, Genesis chapter 3, verse 9. The Bible says, But the Lord God called to the man and said to him, Where are you? Now notice that he came to the man. Well, technically speaking, the woman was the first one to take the bite from the forbidden fruit. So why is God coming to the man? Well, he's coming to the man because the man is responsible as the federal head of his home. That God created the man to be in charge, not to beat his chest and to rule over, but in a partnership with his wife Eve, he was the one that was supposed to be responsible. In fact, if you look at the commandment not to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, God gave that command to Adam, trusting that he would share it with his family. Verse 10. And he said, I heard the sound of you in the garden and I was afraid. By the way, this is the first time fear has ever entered human history because I was naked and I hid myself. And God said, Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you not to eat? Now listen, give me a little bit of hermeneutical license here, okay? So I completely understand that the lamb was slain before the foundation of the world, all right? I know that Jesus is not plan B. It's not like God created the heavens and the earth, and then he made Adam and Eve, and then they sinned, and he was like, oh no, what am I gonna do? Jesus, go fix it. I get it, that it was God's sovereign plan from before the beginning that Jesus would, for the glory of God, he would be born, he'd live a perfect life, he would die to sinner's death, he would be resurrected, he would come and consummate all things, bring all things unto himself for the glory of God. I get it. But give me just a chance here. What if this is God giving Adam a chance to be the man? He's giving him a chance to own it. He's giving him a chance to confess, to repent, to take responsibility. He's giving Adam the opportunity to play the man. You see, the man goes down so that the woman can go free. And he asks a very simple question. Come on, Adam, you can answer this. Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree of which I commanded you to not eat? What if Adam was the kind of man that could stand up and act like a man and he'd go like, you know what, God? All right, I know there's a devil, and I know I'm uh you gave me this incredible gift in my wife, but this is my fault. I'm sorry. Imagine how things could be different if every man took responsibility. Instead, in his new sin nature, he blames. A long time ago, I heard a pastor, this is so pastor cheesy, but I'll never forget it. He says, When you blame, you just be lame. That's exactly what it is. And he blames. That's what he does. Verse 12. The man said, The woman who you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree and I ate. And then the Lord God said to the woman, What is this that you have done? And the woman said, Well, the serpent deceived me and I ate. So Eve follows suit. Men, hear me very clearly. You are responsible. That's right. A part of what it means to be a man. Actually, I think the foundational thing in what it means to be a man is you take responsibility. In our culture, we talk a lot about rights. We don't talk enough about responsibility. And in fact, oftentimes in our homes, we are too concerned with being right. In fact, I say this all the time: when you're married and you're in a disagreement with your wife, you can be right or you can be married. That makes a lot of dudes mad. But let me tell you, there's a lot of dudes, man, and they were right. And they ain't married anymore. And you say, Where in the world do you get that? Well, see, Jesus. When Jesus showed up on this earth, he could have decided to be right. He was right, he was righteous, he was perfect, he never sinned. But when it came for the payment of sin, guess what? He took responsibility for that which was not his fault, our sin, so that we could be made righteous. And the Bible says that we are supposed to love our wives like Christ loved the church. That at the cross, Jesus took on the responsibility of something that was not his fault in order to pay the price that me and you may be made righteous. This is the kind of men we are to be. He didn't blame, he actually took responsibility. Men, we need more Jesus, we need less Adam. If you want to stand firm and act like men, then you got to bend your knee to the God man, Jesus Christ, and allow him to live through you, to do in you and through you what we cannot do in our flesh. Praying for you, men. Be free.

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